Leadership: How to Engage, Inspire, and Connect – Part 1 (Shift Negative Thoughts)

How to Lead Consciously Everyone leads someone . Public speakers lead. To be an effective public speaker, to be an effective leader, you need to engage, inspire, and connect with those you are leading. In this and the next 3 articles we discuss strategies for making conscious decisions on how to shape your thoughts, feelings…

How to Lead Consciously

Everyone leads someone . Public speakers lead. To be an effective public speaker, to be an effective leader, you need to engage, inspire, and connect with those you are leading. In this and the next 3 articles we discuss strategies for making conscious decisions on how to shape your thoughts, feelings and behaviors to positively influence your own happiness to effectively lead others. When you are happy you give others around you the potential to gain happiness as well.

Multiple Communication Situations

The term “public speaking” does not always mean that you're speaking in front of a huge audience . Your oral and nonverbal presentation occurs throughout your day when you're interacting with anyone whether on a one-to-one basis, in a small group, or in a large group. The following principles and recommendations are fitting for any of those situations.

The Impact of Automatic Negative Thoughts on Leaders

As a leader, you have moments of doubt, insecurity, and feelings of defeat . You lose hope. What you as a leader do with those thoughts and feelings is what keeps you from reactive leading to conscientious leading. Our thoughts are rapidly moving through our minds through the day. As humans, our tendencies are to allow unconscious negative thoughts flow through our brains without awareness. These thoughts can damage our feelings and our behavior. Not only can they affect the choices that we make for short-term happiness, but they can also affect the choices we make for long-term happiness. Bring to consciousness those negative thoughts. For example, do the following exercise.

Shifting Negative Thoughts to Consciousness

  1. Sit quietly and breathe.
  2. Without judgment, monitor the flow of thoughts, positive or negative.
  3. Notice your body sensations (tightness / tension can reflect anxiety / fear).
  4. Track back to any moments of anxiety you experienced recently.
  5. Write down the thoughts related to this anxiety.
  6. Do not monitor how it comes out on paper-just write.
  7. Examine the thoughts for any overgeneralization, catastrophizing, projecting the future, or “black and white thinking” such as “That is terrible,” “I'm no good at this.” “This is going to end badly.”
  8. Shape the thought into a more manageable design. For example “I forgot what I was going to say in my presentation and yet I was able to shift to another topic anyway. . ”

When you do this exercise, you see that bringing into consciousness our negative thoughts gives us power over them . In many ways, our negative thoughts are related to fear. Many of us experience fear of disapproval. As the song by Peter Gabriel goes (who has publicly spoken about actively healing his hurts), “I have my fears.” But they do not have me. ”

To your leadership success,

Cher